Purpose, Passion and Planning

A few weeks ago, Michelle Mitchell and I presented a workshop called Purpose, Passion and Planning at The National Kids Yoga Conference. 

It was SUCH a lively and curious group- and we hope to expand the workshop next year.

Since we are rounding the corner on 2015, thought I would share with YOU the tools that we used for some of the workshop.

I have created these worksheets for you from a variety of sources, readings and information that I have collected over the years! Hope this helps YOU start to dream about your 2016. If a question is not relevant to you- then SKIP it!

Pull out your favorite markers.  Grab your journals. GET GOING!

Start to Dream… Get CLEAR

opening meditation

Begin by being grateful for your life. Release disappointments from the past or judgments of past experiences or any SHOULD HAVES or COULD HAVES. Just DREAM.  Acknowledge yourself. Clarify your path to your vision and begin to take inspired action. Inspired action is about embracing uncertainty and listening to your heart. 

Questions to Consider

If money, people’s opinions and judgments, and fear were not factors – what would I want to be, do, or have?

What beliefs or things would I have to let go of if I were to allow this into my life?

What would I have to believe in order to be, do, or have these things?

What really matters to me?

BE ( I am…..) WHO OR WHAT YOU WANT TO BE

This includes – how you feel each day, your purpose or mission, how you show up in life, your strongest traits, the kind of parent or partner you are, etc. If there are traits that you already love about you, include those as well!

DO (I travel, start, arrange,  create) WHAT YOU WANT TO DO

This includes travel, starting a business, offering a new program in your current business, learning a language, marriage, kids, playing the piano, etc. Write these in descriptive sentences or as a list. Really explore the options. Don’t limit yourself in any way! 

Have ( I have)  WHAT YOU WANT TO HAVE

This can be anything from a house on the beach, to free time, to a yoga studio, to a great wardrobe, to three kids, etc. Let yourself dream big here. Lots of people get a little freaked out and feel greedy if they admit to wanting. But, just open up to those “have” desires. Knowing what they are can guide you to the places where you resist or block your own success.

CORE VALUES

Who is the person I respect most in life? What are their core values?

What are the traits of the people I spend the most time with?

If I could have more of any one quality instantly, what would it be?

What are three things I hate? (e.g., cruelty to animals, credit card companies, deforestation, etc.)

Which three people in the world do I dislike the most and why?

Which personality trait, attribute or quality do people compliment me on the most?

If I were to teach someone about values that would give them the best opportunity for success in life, what would those be and why?

If I had enough money to retire tomorrow, what values would I continue to hold?

The top 5 qualities of the “ideal” man or woman or leader (boss) or partner?

Now take a look at your answers above. Do you notice any reoccurring themes?Taking what you’ve observed in others, what others have observed about you, what you want for others, and things you would fight for or against, create a list of your top 5-10 values (in any order) below.

I want to work with/teach…….

A day in my dream life would be…….

My personal mission statement is…….

My “work” mission statement……..

Worth Sharing.

My friend Michelle sent this to me, from Elizabeth Gilbert’s FB page. I LOVE THIS.

I wanted to put it here on the blog so it would not get lost and so those who just wander over here time to time, would be able to find it , read it and contemplate.

Hope it stirs up some shit for you- helps you get clear- and let go of the crap you don’t need anymore.

it’s your life- set the intention. Who KNOWS where it will go- and what will happen between now and then..

11695963_865522170196566_1785908972700735732_nDear Ones —
So this little quote showed up on my Instagram feed the other day, and it hit me in the guts — like “OOF!”

I can’t stop thinking about this idea, so I thought maybe I should share it here and open up the conversation around this concept.

First of all — does everyone understand what the quote is saying?

Here’s the simpler translation:

“If you don’t have a plan for where you’re going to be in five years, then — after five years has passed — you will still be exactly where you are right now.”

Holy cow. That’s bracing.

A little scary. A little exciting.

Look — maybe you absolutely love your life, exactly where you are right now. Maybe you feel like, “If my life looks just like this in five years, then I will be the luckiest person in the world.” If so — awesome! Just keep going just as you are, you blessed soul, and count your lucky stars.

But maybe you can’t bear your life where it is right now. Or maybe you feel stuck and you want to shift things for yourself. Or maybe you like your life, but you dream of something new.

If you haven’t put some kind of concrete plan in place for how to change things, then it is very likely that five years will pass (more quickly than you can imagine) and you will “already be there” — which is to say, you will still be right here.

So let’s talk about making plans.

My wonderful husband always says that our past doesn’t matter nearly as much as our PERCEPTION of our future. So let’s carefully try to perceive our futures in the best possible light. If you can imagine that your future might hold some promise, some difference, some transformation…then happiness can start to grow, even in this present moment.

What might it take, to perceive a different future for yourself, five years down the line?

I’ve heard that the only way to make your dreams come true is to begin by writing them down. I do think this is the truth. Writing down your goals and dreams creates a disturbance in the universe — calls down the attention of your guiding spirits. Writing down your goals also causes a disturbance in your own soul — wakes you up, and makes you take notice of your own desires.

So this is my Friday challenge, everyone. Take a moment today and write down exactly where you want to be in five years. Be honest. Be brave. Be ambitious. Be aspirational.

Who do you want to be spending your time with (romantically, or otherwise) five years from now?

Where do you want to be living?

What do you want your health to look like?

What do you want your creativity to look like?

Where do you want to be working?

What do you want to have put behind you by then?

If you are dreaming of an escape plan, what might that escape plan look like?

How much money will it take to make that dream come true — REALLY?

What are you willing to give up, in order to have what you really want?

Do you honestly need all the things (and people) that you think you need, or might there be a smoother, simpler way?

And what steps can you imagine beginning to take right now…to transport you from HERE to THERE.

Because one way or another, five years is going to pass. In half a decade, you will either be standing exactly where you are right now, or you will be standing somewhere completely new. You might even have turned into SOMEBODY completely new. (Biological science teaches us, after all, that five years from now, every cell in your body will have been replaced, and thus you will be a completely different biological entity than you are right now. Talk about a resurrection story! Pretty cool, right? So how about becoming a completely different emotional entity, as well?)

I made my list this morning: WHERE LIZ WANTS TO BE IN FIVE YEARS.

My list surprised me. My list involves getting rid of even more of my material belongings, giving more to charity, and living on a beach. My list involves a lot of travel with the people I love most. My list involves a trip to Japan. My trip involves driving across Greenland, and walking trip along the coast of New Zealand. My list involves writing for a TV show. (WHO KNEW?) Most of all, my list involves a radical emotional shift in the way I handle resentment, forgiveness, anxiety blame and shame — which might mean I need to be doing some serious work on my psyche over the next five years.

OK, then! I’m up for it!

I didn’t even know I wanted all these things…but apparently I really want these things.

Now that I have seen it all written down, it has become real. Now I must work toward getting there.

What about you?

Five years from now. Picture it.

WRITE IT DOWN.

Make it real.

I’ll meet you in five years, everyone — and we can compare notes!

ONWARD,

crazy curls & moving forward

A few short years ago, I was in a bad place. a dark tunnel filled with so much stress. I was moving the studio to a new location (being asked to leave our original location), living with a very challenging pregnancy & pregnancy depression, watching my bff confront cancer and layer on top of that some marriage hiccups & financial stress.

I did a pretty good job of hiding it .. or so I thought.

A few months after Milo was born, we re- opened lil omm in Tenley, my bff was healthy again, I started communicating with my hubby better and I felt like things were really looking up.

And this is when I started losing my hair… in huge clumps, bald spots everywhere.I have written and spoken about this in the past.. ..it was weird bc I was trying to hide it from everyone ( I am not good at hiding or feeling like i cant express myself 100% authentically. all the time ) I could not stop thinking “how does a health and wellness teacher LOOSE her hair from stress?” I felt ashamed and scared. I would pause when people would ask how I was.. ” I’m okay. I would say.. just a lot going on.”

I was also a bit heartbroken. I thought we were “in the clear” that life had calmed down a bit .

Milo was born healthy, our vibrant community had a yoga home again and my best friend was healthy again! so much to be grateful for! and yet, my body was on a delay. I tried to meditate on this, to sit quietly offering myself peace and healing. I poured lavender on my scalp and slept with it on my pillow. I had good days where I counted my blessings and reminded myself it was only hair.. and I had TERRIBLE tearful screaming nights where I beat myself up mentally for not being strong and for hiding so much pain and I watched a lot of tv to pass time until it grew back. I said no to a bunch of social events and parties. I was scared to swim. When my hair was wet you could see all the bald spots. For an entire spring and summer I did not even get in the pool with the kids.

I believe my hair loss was related to the previous year’s stress in my life. I was so scared of falling apart when things were bad and even more terrified to break down when I thought I had gotten my shit together.

Fast forward to the 6 rounds of steroid shots in my head.. my hair SLOWLY started coming back. It has now been almost 2 years and all the new hair is CRAZY curly.

Its hilarious. I am learning how to take care of it, learning how quick it dreads if I don’t brush it- and I learned you are not supposed to brush it!

But I think what strikes me the most is that as the curly grows wild I can see that time in my life over my shoulder now.
that time has passed. that no matter what …. I keep changing. That I am still ALIVE & STRONG and that this might be the happiest I have ever been in my life.

scary to say aloud.

Its like when I look in the mirror and don’t recognize the curls I stop and think about how far I have come- emotionally-
personally and with my life. I say to myself- WOW- you have been through a lot. This has been a pretty vibrant and interesting 35 years- whats next??

I just want to be clear to the world that I don’t take 1 day for granted. I don’t ever forget all the work and tears and loneliness that dominated my life for plenty of years.. that now that I feel free I will always follow my heart. I will always keep creating new ideas- new ventures- new friends- new practices.

I am in love with life. even the sad parts. even the tough moments. even the heartbreak and the pain. and especially all the beautiful people who are in my life.

I want to spread the possibility of joy. I want to thank all the writers, yoga & meditation teachers, creators, artists and visionaries who inspire me to keep up my good work. I feel connected to them all for sharing stories, opening hearts and putting it all out on the table .

i don’t want to miss a thing.

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