Vision Board 101

In this video segment I give you an online introduction to vision boards with examples of my most personal boards dating back to 2007.

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I absolutely love vision boarding and find it to be a creative way to go deeper every time I’m faced with a new phase or chapter in my life.  Vision boarding is an intentional practice– a way to help clarify and focus on a specific goal.  It unleashes your creativity and gets the juices flowing in new ways.

You don’t need much for a vision board… the back of a cardboard box, some quiet time to sit and listen to your heart, magazines, scissors, and glue!  There are so many types of vision boards and you can get very specific with the type of board you create.  The possibilities are endless and the more you practice vision boarding, the more you work inwards, and the more you are able to listen to your soul.

Vision boarding is a type self-care and a helpful tool for intentionality planning.  Give it a try and let me know what comes up for you.  I’d love to see your board and/or hear how vision boarding has served you.

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Family Meetings

 

After being away for 7 weeks,  our transition home was {kinda} smooth. Mostly because mama did everything she could to clean and organize and declutter the house BEFORE school starts this week……

I was able to do most stuff and get the kids involved in the donating projects and organizing books. We STILL have a lot of stuff- that’s for sure but I’m working on it slowly. It takes time, and I know that since it’s a priority to me- that I am going to be the one who is  motivated to actually work on the clearing out of our “STUFF”, especially with growing kiddos where there seems to ALWAYS be something we can get rid of.

BUT after all that cleaning and clearing – I was still feeling a bit unsettled and I realized that we are not on the same page. As the CEO and leader of the Silicki crew- it was my job to pull together our family meeting notes & values, and to get us on track for a weekly family meeting. We have done meetings before- sort of here and there with the kids, mostly b/c Milo was too young to get it. Mel and I had our own planning time on our weekly date nights but now with Saylor going into 3rd grade and Milo starting Kindergarten- it’s the PERFECT time to set up a weekly family meeting.

Also, I could tell that we need a regular consistent date to talk about what is working well for us – each member of the family and what needs some attention. Who is feeling heard and supported in the family and who is feeling frustrated or irritated about something (this time, it was me!) We needed a safe, calm regular space to communicate around how we live together.

So I put together a super quick check in sheet for us to use each week and I set the time to be the same each week- SUNDAYS at 5pm- FAMILY MEETING. Now, we like to go out to dinner on Sunday nights so I told everyone we could have the meeting at the restaurant and I brought the check in papers and everything we need. Currently, we are working on pulling together our values to create our family mission statement, but this process is taking time- everyone wants more time to think about what we value as a family.

Also, so that I don’t overwhelm them I try to have just 1 thing I want to do at the meeting, one thing to discuss. So for example, we always go over the check in sheet ( see questions below) and then I usually bring 1 other topic.. this week it will be FALL schedule b/c over the weekend I finished mapping out the after school activities and the weekends I am working, etc so that we can discuss if we have enough down time, alone time, family time, etc.

I LOVE doing this. I feel so empowered by our unit when we have these conversations and GET ON THE SAME PAGE!  It helps my husband and I be able to move a bit more easily through the week – when we know generally who is responsible for what and when, what nights will be late for work or early for exercise, etc. And I can honestly feel that our intentionality in this method DEEPLY helps Milo who has trouble with transition and change – so being able to connect each week about what’s ahead is really helping him adjust as well. And Saylor LOVES to know what’s going on which day, she LOVES being part of a FAMILY and this routine has been really helpful for all of our relationships. I also know I have a place each week to bring up something that might have happened the week before ( like both children sleeping in our bed) and there is WAY less drama or frustration b/c we all sit down together and express how we are – within a safe boundary.

Here are the questions on our Weekly Meeting Form..

Each person gets a turn to share..

What went well this week for you..

at school/work/camp

at home/personal/family

with health/fitness/care

What did not get well for you…..

at school/work/camp

at home/personal/family

with health/fitness/care

What did you learn this week? 

could be something you tried that did not work out- or something you learned at school or at work or about yourself!

Do you need any support right now from the family or outside the family?

If you want some guidelines for creating a Family Mission Statement- email me and I’ll send them over to pleasance@lilomm.com

Also, I just finished the outline for our FIRST FAMILY THRIVE Intensive workshop- to be held later this fall- stay tuned!! Topics will cover things like- planning,healthy eating, movement and meditation for the whole family.

You can find loads of resources online for family charters, family mission statements, family meeting outlines- HONESTLY, I keep it simple and I just create my own template.

My friend Lori, from Mindful Return also wrote these posts about her planning- these might also give you some ideas!

Annual Planning Day: The Saturday Basket on Steroids

Saturday Secrets: Tips on Living a Calmer Life as a Working Mama

Why Retreat

retreatWhy Retreat?

Okay, let’s be real for a minute.
Our lives never seem to slow down. The minute we think we will “have some time” to ourselves, a kid gets sick, the sitter does not show up, our boss calls us back into work, the dishwasher breaks. It never ends! It’s just too much. Our daily, busy modern lives do not really ease up and it’s truly up to us to put a big stop sign up and say, “ENOUGH!  I need a break.”
A few years ago when Milo was a year and a half, I had hit that wall. I was running on fumes and was just not able to find any peace or space in my daily life.  I was craving quiet, rest, solitude, and nourishment… and it’s funny because I did not realize that going in.  My nervous system was on OVERDRIVE all the time, and I don’t think I even had a minute to realize what I wanted.  It was a freezing cold night, both kids were crying, and I was sitting on the floor of my house when I saw the description for the retreat come into my inbox and I thought, “THAT’S IT. It’s time.”
You see, before that I had never spent time or money on my self like this.  Sure I had taken “trainings” (and anything having to do with learning always counts as a good investment), but I really struggled with allowing myself– giving permission to myself to actually schedule some serious down time. A weekend that focused solely on meditation and silence, on being and not doing.
And after a few days away from my family, on my own to write in my journal, read my book, be in silence, walk in nature, eat meals on my own slowly and with care, I started to breath deeper, fuller and I could feel my shoulders soften. I started to see my life in a new way, I started to relax a bit into my true nature.  And my life never really looked the same again.
I was able to recognize and prioritize when I needed some alone time. I was able to make it through some very hard times by just knowing that my next retreat was planned and that I was truly giving myself permission to take time away from daily life. I noticed that when I returned my voice was stronger, my heart fuller, my head clearer. I was prepared to make decisions for our family and for my biz, and I was  able to engage with my daily life from a more loving and grounded place.
Yep, just that weekend away had given my body and my mind the much deserved REST it truly needed, and from then on Retreat has been one of the ways I have been able to do hard things, process emotions, and find my way home to ME. What a gift to give my kids and to my husband, when I come home and love them up so much!  My gratitude is overflowing for the gifts that our life is and that can be SO HARD TO SEE when I’m rushing around, DOING, DOING, DOING and living in fight or flight mode.
So.. that was where my love affair with retreats started. I signed up for one, and then another. I planned and mapped out that I really needed and wanted to go once a year, then once a season. Eventually, I  started leading them at the studio and then in new places. One of the things I love to do most in the world is hold space for women to just be: to create, to rest, to walk or stretch with no expectations for outcomes.  Just everyone having their own experience.
So this Fall and Winter I invite you to join me. Each retreat a bit different: a different purpose, a different time of year.
  • MOMS UP!  October 28-30.  GREAT for mamas who want to spend an intimate weekend with other mamas! DELISH food, conversations, mama workshops and movement practices all weekend. We share a big country house and enjoy the beauty of Fall and each other.
  • Pause.  November 13.  Our most popular half-day retreat is back!  Spend your Friday committing yourself to purposeful rest, movement, and connection right in Tenleytown.  No weekend long commitment or stress around arranging childcare-  just a short, sweet opportunity to recharge before the Holidays.
  • Delight.  December 9-11. Designed for women wanting to spend some time in quiet, in contemplation, surrounded by the beautiful VA countryside with plenty of trails to walk, plus time for yoga and meditation. The PERFECT way to approach the Holidays, to set intentions for the new year, and to explore your inner world.  In this retreat, we will dive into some of the principles covered in my book, Delight: 8 Principles for Living with Joy & Ease all while settling into the rhythms of winter. Our accommodations allow for you to share a room & visit with a friend OR to have a private room where you can choose to spend most of your time just resting and relaxing.  I have a few optional workshops also planned for this weekend, including JourneyDance and Mala Bracelet making, and book your own massage.

 

Retreat FAQs

What if I don’t know anyone? You’re already one of us—you seek connection, rest, and nourishment and so do we! It won’t take long to break the ice and feel open and comfortable with the group.

What if I have a food/allergy concern? E-mail us and we’ll find a solution.

What if I’ve never done yoga or meditation? You’re in for a treat! We’ll enjoy all levels practices for all ages, stages, and sizes.

Is it possible to arrive early or stay late? Maybe! Please contact the venue directly.

What if I have to cancel? Your registration is non-refundable, however you are able to transfer registration to someone else (ie. sell you spot).  Keep in mind, this is a gift and investment in yourself.

in all the books

everytime I am working on something- I grab a composition book. old school and cheap. sometimes I decorate the front with creative visuals (depends on what I have around.. last year I painted the cover- that worked well!) and sometimes I simply put the date and idea. this past week I was intensely working in my new book. a place to hold all the ideas- the map- the plan- the dreams- and I stopped – put the pen down and had a wave of sadness and appreciation. 11 years ago the book was full of dreams and ideas for a school we wanted to build. it outlined the daily schedule, teacher recruitment plans, handbook tips, charter applications points that had to be addressed. eventually, the school opened. 

8 years ago the book was full of class ideas and times (prenatal, baby, toddler, family!)  and teacher schedules, biz permit requirements, endless tiny to dos and dreams for book clubs and author visits and family yoga training. eventually, the studio opened.

now the book has pages of questions that I want to answer for my students and commonalities for the people in my live thriving. schedules for how to include my doterra biz and my retreat schedule.  financials for biz options- coaching, teaching yoga, privates and groups… all with a pause. and a whole section dedicated to the book ideas and biz ideas for the next 10 years.

I love this bc I get to ask what feels right, NOW? AND what kind of life DO I WANT in the future. what is good enough for today and what is the larger impact I feel called to make in the world. 

my vision book is the way I have slowly and consistently worked through the big dreams and the daily tasks. 

this summer- when the energy is flowing and you are feeling so good in your body… what can you map out? what can you start to dream about? what areas of your life need a little more intention?

hint hint- some cool ideas

book of travel dreams

book of thoughts and poems and quotes

book of service project or plan

book of memories

shared book with a kiddo – where you BOTH get to include words and creations.

enJOY and let me know what you come up with. 

my new glitter tape does not like the heat!

38 is.

A sense of home. of comfort. of life. of connection.

As the summer draws near and our big adventure awaits- I’m aware of the repeating patterns and mind chatter that arises. What will be? What will happen? Is this good enough?  I read a meditation about WORRY last night and realized how much of my current thought patterns are around my work, teaching, writing and biz.

More questions than answers, as usual. More wondering and curious-ness as I spend the days prepping and planning to be away from home for 7 weeks. ( I’m mindful that this means being away from my art-love filled office, most of my clients, my home yoga studio, my teaching, my leading, my morning and evening routines and rituals in the spots I love to do them, away from my dog, my bed and my bed.) And the question is- what CAN I do to help/ take care of myself with all the changes. I’m ready to step up and practice what I preach. Take the CALM with me, b/c it DOES NOT exist in this material home or this well planned out schedule. The peace, the strength, the awareness lives withIN me and I have access to that at all times. In fact, it’s the ONLY thing I have control of 24/7. How I respond, how I engage, how I relate. In fact, I feel so passionate about this process and awakening that I’m leading a free call about it this week.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still making lists of what I will need to take with me in order for me to feel healthy, nourished, aligned. All while planning work projects for the FALL and the WINTER which feel like millions of miles away.

So instead I sit here.  On the chair and I wonder how much it all means or matters.

As I create and craft a new biz model that supports me in all areas of my life ( financial, service, community, health, well being, sustainable) I play with the ideas and dreams that meander in and out of my day. The world is noisy- and I want to be quiet.. so how does that work? I don’t want to retire or take time off or let it all go.. but can I do/ be/ create as I want to- without all the noise.

I keep thinking and saying, “is my best work behind me?” ” I’m only 38!” And then I take a deep breath into my belly, close my eyes and feel the ALIVENESS of my energy. Of the season.. I drop into knowing and feeling and BEING with TODAY. I drop into the body and repeat.. I TRUST that I am on the right path for me. I trust my heart and my intuition. I live in abundance and I want to feel my way through this. Navigate. Pivot. Explore. No clue as to what will unfold. It’s all possible. ALL OF IT. The dreams I have, the WOW this is my life.. with intention, with meaning, with purpose.

AND YET, This way of being, the process of exploring the thoughts while feeling my way with no pre-determined outcome, of course brings up DOUBT and FEAR.

It lives in us all. Even those of us who jump, take risks, fall, get back up, fall back down, plan something, love someone, live, breathe, start over and over and over, it’s part of being human. But I can’t let her stop me from trying. I can hear her say “why you?” ” go GET A JOB” ” NOT ENOUGH” and I see her and acknowledge her and hug her and thank her. And she moves on, for now. I know the next time she returns.. it will be less painful, less intense. I don’t believe her.

You see, I can feel in my bones that I meant to do EXACTLY what I am doing right now. It’s ease-full-joy-full- challenging- beautiful- stimulating- and  not to mention, I hear from the woman who have been or  who are students about how potent the teachings are. As I learn and absorb and then surrender, facilitate and share, I can feel the shift. They say, ” I feel lighter. I feel more alive, more awake. I notice more. I feel my body. ”

It’s also part of the reason I am scared. Stepping into your strength, power, calling and greatness can be well- rather overwhelming for someone as sensitive as I am.

But it’s also why I know I’m on the right path. I can feel the energy in my belly, in my days, in my heart.

WHY? b/c it’s the “road less traveled” the road I have always been on.

So, for now I write and I dream. I journal, I vlog and I try with my whole heart to live with the utmost integrity to what I believe and who I am. I want to stretch my body and mind and feel ALIVE. And see where this leads me…

For now.. it’s in events like this.

Retreat like this.

And courses like this.

Stay Tuned..

I have been creating a wellness framework to piggy back on Delight and Thrive books & programs and I can see it all coming together. It’s so fun to dream of how to bring this work forward- and HOW I CAN HELP OTHERS DO THE SAME MAGIC MAKING IN THEIR LIVES. I want to roll up my sleeves, hear what people want- get them to start dreaming and see it come into action… it’s incredible.

Purpose, Passion and Planning

A few weeks ago, Michelle Mitchell and I presented a workshop called Purpose, Passion and Planning at The National Kids Yoga Conference. 

It was SUCH a lively and curious group- and we hope to expand the workshop next year.

Since we are rounding the corner on 2015, thought I would share with YOU the tools that we used for some of the workshop.

I have created these worksheets for you from a variety of sources, readings and information that I have collected over the years! Hope this helps YOU start to dream about your 2016. If a question is not relevant to you- then SKIP it!

Pull out your favorite markers.  Grab your journals. GET GOING!

Start to Dream… Get CLEAR

opening meditation

Begin by being grateful for your life. Release disappointments from the past or judgments of past experiences or any SHOULD HAVES or COULD HAVES. Just DREAM.  Acknowledge yourself. Clarify your path to your vision and begin to take inspired action. Inspired action is about embracing uncertainty and listening to your heart. 

Questions to Consider

If money, people’s opinions and judgments, and fear were not factors – what would I want to be, do, or have?

What beliefs or things would I have to let go of if I were to allow this into my life?

What would I have to believe in order to be, do, or have these things?

What really matters to me?

BE ( I am…..) WHO OR WHAT YOU WANT TO BE

This includes – how you feel each day, your purpose or mission, how you show up in life, your strongest traits, the kind of parent or partner you are, etc. If there are traits that you already love about you, include those as well!

DO (I travel, start, arrange,  create) WHAT YOU WANT TO DO

This includes travel, starting a business, offering a new program in your current business, learning a language, marriage, kids, playing the piano, etc. Write these in descriptive sentences or as a list. Really explore the options. Don’t limit yourself in any way! 

Have ( I have)  WHAT YOU WANT TO HAVE

This can be anything from a house on the beach, to free time, to a yoga studio, to a great wardrobe, to three kids, etc. Let yourself dream big here. Lots of people get a little freaked out and feel greedy if they admit to wanting. But, just open up to those “have” desires. Knowing what they are can guide you to the places where you resist or block your own success.

CORE VALUES

Who is the person I respect most in life? What are their core values?

What are the traits of the people I spend the most time with?

If I could have more of any one quality instantly, what would it be?

What are three things I hate? (e.g., cruelty to animals, credit card companies, deforestation, etc.)

Which three people in the world do I dislike the most and why?

Which personality trait, attribute or quality do people compliment me on the most?

If I were to teach someone about values that would give them the best opportunity for success in life, what would those be and why?

If I had enough money to retire tomorrow, what values would I continue to hold?

The top 5 qualities of the “ideal” man or woman or leader (boss) or partner?

Now take a look at your answers above. Do you notice any reoccurring themes?Taking what you’ve observed in others, what others have observed about you, what you want for others, and things you would fight for or against, create a list of your top 5-10 values (in any order) below.

I want to work with/teach…….

A day in my dream life would be…….

My personal mission statement is…….

My “work” mission statement……..