How Working Less Brought Me More

I’m obsessed with living a good life. I think you know this.

I’m passionate and totally enthralled with lifestyle design, joy, productivity and LOVING how you plan your days so that you can do ALL THE THINGS and STILL FEEL GREAT.

All this led me to a deep dive over the past 5 years in HOW TO build a life I LOVE AND do it on MY TERMS. MY HOURS. MY FINANCIAL GOALS. MY WAY.

And it worked.

One of the things that I REALLY put into practice was “working less” in order to find, sustain and nurture my

creativity, intuition, and “inner wise self” as  writer, SARK, calls it.

So I said, okay- let’s try it. Let go of ALL The DOING ALL THE TIME.

Let go of the packed schedule and NEVER finding time for me

( although, that’s not REALLY my story… but just go with me on this one)

Let go of the “taking care of everyone else first”  et VOILA!

My schedule for work is usually around 20-30 hours a week and I make a good living.

I’m comfortable, live in plenty of abundance ( time, energy, money) and actually deeply appreciate and discovered my authentic frugal self who just truly finds pleasure in small things, simple things and nature and “finding a deal!”

I know if I really WANTED to make more, I could.

But right now, this all feels really good. So that works for me.

Now, I used to drive a BMW. Yep, I did. And I used to live in a 2 million dollar house. And I used to own a beach condo.  And to be honest, I was not a fan of all this STUFF, responsibility or  people thinking they “knew ”  who I was just by the car I drove and the house I lived in.

I always felt like a weirdo imposter, like it was “someone else’s car and LIFE!”

The house was a beautiful gift that my husband built for me. It was an incredible place. AND we grew away from it. From the size, from the shifting of our family, from the bills. It all just felt like WAY TOO MUCH and that did not bring that deep peace that I so craved and desired.

 

In my 20’s  I was jet setting to Vegas and day drinking in a Cabana. Okay, THAT was really fun. I used to THINK I wanted fancy bags and jeans that shopping would make me happy and I acquired thousands and thousands of dollars in debt along the way.  Do you know what TRULY makes me happy? having no credit card debt and a HEALTHY relationship with money that gives me FREEDOM and POWER. Being honest with what I can afford and what’s just way too much, right now. Making CHOICES about how I spend my money based on my values, not on my BAD HABITS or stories from my childhood.

If you look at my cored desired feelings/ personal values & life mission & compare  it to my bank account, it totally aligns… you will see things for learning, giving and family! That is so cool!!!

But eventually, all that glitz and glitter and fancy schmancy just stopped being something I cared about.  Having kids, watching “rich” friends be REALLY unhappy, practicing more and more yoga, meditation retreats and journaling. SO. MUCH. JOURNALING.

And now, I just truly work less and play more. I have LEARNED that the downtime DOES bring on my best ideas, insights AND that when I step away from it all, the NOT- SO – IMPORTANT things that I used to stress about, sometimes they just don’t get done.

And that’s okay.

I have also learned to let go of WAY- TO- BIG expectations around all I can “accomplish” in a week, month, year  and learn to slow down enough to ENJOY the creative process.

I used to be really afraid that if I did not take action right now, the ideas would dry up or disappear ( helloooo scarcity! ) and now I know that they flow in AND out.

Some things I put forward and some things I just don’t end up doing.

And that’s okay.

The MORE I take care of myself first, and follow the flow- the ideas just POUR out of me!

It’s so fun. Being creative is fun. Finding flow in daily life is fun. This is NOT unique to me, just so you know, it’s accessible to YOU as well.

Getting older feels awesome in my biz b/c now I trust my instincts, flows, ideas and cycles.  I have learned how to ride the waves, how to put something out there- see if anyone else is interested in that and then let it go if not.

I have learned how to PROTECT my scared work time in the day.

And now I teach other multi passionate peeps to do that too- HOW COOL?

There is,

time to create and time to rest.

time to sweat and time to focus.

time to work and time to play.

And every day, I show up and I do SOMETHING. I write, I coach, I share, I mentor, I plan, I pay a bill, I help someone, I play, I rest.  I trust and the hardest for me has been ..

TO ALLOW.

I heard someone ask recently, ” what could I do today so that I can go to  sleep tonight knowing that I had a life well lived?”

I know that at the end of my life, I don’t want to be known as someone who “worked all the time.”  I want to be known as someone who LIVED and LOVED and TRIED and FAILED and LAUGHED AND CRIED and was just fully embracing this life stuff.

 

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